Protecting Yourself From Bad Vibes In Your Home
With special guest, Carla Atherton
Carla is the director of Lotus Health Project and Healthy Family Formula Practice.
After her daughter was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, she hit multiple dead ends with doctors, recognizing that the true avenues to health were not available to her family yet is what was desperately needed. The solutions she was seeking were not being offered so she set out to start digging the information up herself.
This led Carla to set out on a mission to make sure she could share what she had found with other parents. She believes health and wellness involves all aspects of the self, including the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual which is why it’s so important to address the “emotional temperature” of the home. If it’s not at a comfy temp, it will be very difficult for healing to happen.
Each member of the family, or home, has a state of being whether it’s well or ill. That state affects everyone else – not just the person with the mood, or low vibe. Typically, when we want to improve our health, we think: nutrition, exercise, sleep and vitamins.
But what is often overlooked is both the destructive powers of low vibrations as well as the healing that a high vibration can catalase.
Carla’s advice for keeping a healing vibe in the home
Staying true to your heart resonance
The heart, like the brain, generates a powerful electromagnetic field. The heart generates the largest electromagnetic field in the body. The electrical field as measured in an electrocardiogram (ECG) is about 60 times greater in amplitude than the brain waves recorded in an electroencephalogram (EEG).
In research titled, The HeartMath Study; "The Electricity of Touch: Detection and Measurement of Cardiac Energy Exchange Between People", researchers set out to determine whether the heart’s electromagnetic field, as measured by an electrocardiogram (ECG), in one individual could be detected and measured in another person when the pair either were seated within about three feet of each other or held hands.
The results of The Electricity of Touch experiment were positive: The data showed “when people touch or are in proximity, a transference of the electromagnetic energy produced by the heart occurs,” the study’s authors wrote.
The heart’s electromagnetic field contains certain information or coding, that is transmitted throughout and outside of the body. One of the most significant findings is that intentionally generated positive emotions can change this information/coding.
On the flipside, an individual who is angry, fearful, depressed or experiencing some other negative emotion, influences those around them with this low vibratory state of emotion. Also, care, compassion, love or other positive emotions are not only transmitted throughout an individual’s body as the cardioelectromagnetic field radiates through it, but transferred externally as well to people in close proximity.
The mood in your home impacts your well-being, even if it’s not your own!
“Through the use of tools and technologies that foster positive emotions and psychophysiological coherence, individuals can effectively initiate a repatterning process, whereby habitual emotional patterns underlying stress are replaced with new, healthier patterns that establish increased emotional stability, mental acuity, and physiological efficiency as a new familiar baseline or norm.
Setting healthy boundaries with constructive communication
Some relationships are just not good for our health and in certain circumstances, maintaining relations with them can prevent us from healing. To protect your healing space, you will have to assess relationships and be sure to implement boundaries to those who may be interfering with your recovery.
In order to keep people from bursting your boundary bubble, you have to effectively communicate what this bubble means. They can’t possibly know what your boundaries are unless you clearly communicate them. Before you completely shut someone out of your life, have a discussion with them. Give them the opportunity to correct their overbearing or aggressive ways. This may lead to quite an uncomfortable discussion, but a very necessary one. It could also be the best thing that happens in your relationship with this person(s).
Let people know what you will and will not tolerate. For example:
Friend: Would you like to come over for dinner one night this week?
You: I’d love to visit. I have an hour on Thursday evening and I’ll stop by for a cup of tea, after I’ve eaten dinner. This allows you to still visit, but to avoid eating food that may not be appropriate for your treatment.
If you’re friend presses the issue of eating together or insists on you coming over for dinner, you could respond with: “My meals are planned out ahead of time because what I eat is important to my treatment plan, so I’m really looking forward to chatting with a cup of tea!”
It’s a matter of redirecting the ideas down the path of least resistance.
Whatever the situation may be, you can’t expect someone to know your limits if they only exist in your mind. This also sets you up for disappointment because there will be expectations of how the other person should be acting. When they don’t meet those expectations, because you didn’t effectively communicate your boundaries, there will be disaster.
To the best of my knowledge, most people aren’t mind readers so it’s up to you to suggest and make adjustments if you want to salvage or restore a hard-to-handle relationship to get through your cancer recovery. You have to express your boundaries and clearly communicate them in order to give the other person the opportunity to respect them!
Get the words right
There is no good or bad feeling, they all just ARE. Humans were intelligently designed with the bonus of having feelings. Not only did we get feelings, but we got quite a wide range of them.
Repressing or avoiding emotions will eventually lead to physical symptoms of some sort. Perhaps it’s even one of the causative factors of your cancer diagnosis. This kind of energy sticks in its respective energy center and gets stuck there if you don’t find ways to process it, let it go, release it and fill that space back up with a higher vibrating emotion.
Everything is energy. In the very center of each and every single one of your cells is an engine called mitochondria. This engine is a powerhouse that produces energy that give you life. When it’s breaking down or malfunctioning, quality of life is reflected as such.
Every form of energy has a charge, including emotions.
Emotions are (E)nergy in Motion
Whether or not it’s a highly vibrating energy or lower vibrating energy is what determines your outlook, your capabilities, your limitations and your responses. Staying conscious of our thoughts is step one to raising the frequency of our thought vibrations.
Labeling things as good or bad, as well as labeling someone with a mental health “disorder” can be damaging. It’s an outdated outlook on mental health and gives the idea that a person is “stuck” in a certain state of mind. With the right coping mechanisms and tools, any state of mind can be changed.
The one thing NOBODY can ever take from you are your thoughts. They are yours. You get to choose them whether we are in a free world or not. Your thoughts are yours, so choose wisely.
How are you participating?
When you are dealing with someone hard to deal with and your interactions with them are making you frustrated, have you taken the time to ask yourself, “How am I participating in this?”
It’s so easy to point the finger, place blame and toss responsibility into the other persons court, but when we take a step outside the situation and say …. Stick ourselves on the wall (like a fly) to evaluate the case, we may realize that we are part of the unhealthy exchange of energy.
If so, be consciously willing to apologize when necessary and to make change when applicable. It’s quite possible the other person is dealing with some sort of struggle of their own and seem to be in a negative mood because of their own internal turbulation.
Be aware of what they might be going through. This isn’t an excuse for engaging in arguments or overlooking thoughtless behaviors, but it could be an explanation to their unwanted actions or words.
They might need healing themselves and don’t know how or where to start. I’m not suggesting your pry, if it’s not appropriate to ask personal questions. I’m suggesting to be cognizant that everyone has something going on and most of the time, we aren’t aware of it.
Everyone wants to feel heard. Be a conscious listener and do your best to comprehend when someone is speaking to you. It could be the very component that was missing and throwing your relationship off kilter.
Some relationships just weren’t meant to be. This could be a temporary thing, or permanent. Either way, you just need to deal with what is in the present and if it’s not working, the other person or people refuse to respect your boundaries or desire for space, then for the sake of your better health you may need to detoxify them from your life.
If you’ve communicated your boundaries and there is still no shift, it may be time to take a break from this person. At least for now. Revisit the relationship at a later time, if necessary.
I want to point out that abuse is never ok. You should seek counsel if someone is abusing you whether it be physical, mental or emotional. Taking this type of treatment from someone because you’re related to them or have a significant amount of time invested in them doesn’t justify them tearing you down.
Emotional, verbal, and mental abuse is just as destructive as physical abuse and these types of people don’t even deserve boundaries. They need to be removed from your healing path and cleared you’re your life. Unhealthy relationships are a common root cause to cancer and other chronic illnesses. It’s unfortunate and will be hard, but the damage that can occur from toxic people is not and never will be worth sacrificing your health to spare their feelings.
The most powerful tool we have to ensure we make better health and wellness choices in the future is KNOWLEDGE.